Part 8: Compromise & Dominance - The Hidden Power Struggles in Connection
Based on the original teachings of Ra Uru Hu – “Understanding Our Design in Relationships” (1998)
“It is not love that breaks relationships. It is the mechanical tension of energy trying to assert itself.”
— Ra Uru Hu
The Silent Undercurrent of Power in Relationships
Every relationship has a dynamic — a push and pull of energies, a rhythm of who leads and who follows, who initiates and who responds. Ra Uru Hu revealed something crucial about these dynamics: that many of the deepest conflicts in relationships come not from emotion or values, but from mechanical configurations.
Among these, Ra focused deeply on Compromise and Dominance connections. These aren't psychological games or roles we play — they are energetic realities that shape how we interact and whether we thrive or suffer in a relationship.
Understanding Compromise Channels
A Compromise happens when:
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One person has a full channel (both gates defined)
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The other person has only one gate of that same channel
This means that in one person, the energy flows independently — they are self-contained in that frequency. In the other person, the energy is incomplete — and when they enter the relationship, they are overridden by the other’s full expression of that channel.
Why is this a challenge?
Because the person with the hanging gate may feel:
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Invisible or suppressed in that area of life
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That their perspective or rhythm is always overwritten
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That their energy is constantly compromised, even if unintentionally
The person with the full channel is usually unaware of this — they’re simply being themselves. But the one with the hanging gate may feel they’re always “off” in this relationship, unable to find their natural flow.
Example: Channel 43-23 – Structuring Insight
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Partner A has the full 43-23 channel: insight and expression.
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Partner B only has Gate 43: insight without expression.
In this dynamic, Partner B may constantly feel unheard, or feel their ideas are interrupted or eclipsed by Partner A, who expresses easily and fluently. Over time, Partner B may suppress their voice or feel less intelligent — even though this is simply a mechanical effect, not a personal failing.
The Key to Compromise: Awareness and Space
Ra said that compromise is the most difficult configuration in relationships.
“Compromise demands deep awareness. It is not a flaw — but it must be recognized to be respected.”
If you’re the one being compromised:
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Don’t take it personally. It’s not an attack, it’s mechanics.
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Learn to create space in the relationship — alone time, solitude — to reconnect to your own energy in that gate.
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If the relationship is correct overall (via Authority), find ways to express that energy outside the relationship dynamic.
If you’re the one with the dominant full channel:
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Understand your partner may feel overshadowed.
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Don’t suppress yourself — but do invite them in consciously.
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Create safe moments where their energy can come forth.
Dominance: When One Holds the Reins
Dominance occurs when:
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One partner has a full channel that the other does not contribute to at all
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This channel becomes a dominant frequency in the relationship
This is not always negative. Ra said that dominance can work beautifully, as long as both people know who they are, and both follow their strategy and authority.
In a healthy relationship:
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The dominant person leads in that energy
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The other benefits from that frequency, without resisting or resenting
Example: Channel 57-20 – Spontaneity and Intuition
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Partner A has this full Splenic channel
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Partner B has no gates in it
Partner A may naturally make quick decisions, act instinctively, and trust their body intelligence. Partner B may find this attractive, even stabilizing — if it doesn’t threaten their own design.
But if Partner B tries to compete or control that flow, conflict arises. The dominant energy can’t be shared — it’s either accepted, or resisted.
The Trap of Power Struggles
Without awareness of these mechanics, people can get stuck in:
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Blaming their partner for being “too much” or “not enough”
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Competing instead of complementing
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Feeling disempowered, and trying to fix or manipulate the other
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Or worse, sacrificing their own truth to keep the peace
Ra was clear:
“The moment you abandon your own authority to appease or dominate, the relationship is broken — even if you’re still together.”
The Gift of Mechanical Awareness
When you understand the mechanics of dominance and compromise, you stop trying to change the other — and instead begin to ask the real question:
Is this relationship correct for me?
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If it is correct, then the dynamic can be respected, navigated, and even used creatively.
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If it is not correct, no amount of love, effort, or therapy will make it “work.” The mechanics will continue to pull you out of alignment.
Resonance Over Balance
We often look for “balance” in relationships — 50/50 partnerships, equal voice, shared control. Ra offered something radically different: resonance.
In resonance:
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Each person is fully themselves
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One may lead in one frequency; the other in another
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The relationship is a symphony, not a scale
When both partners live by strategy and authority, even dominance and compromise become workable, and in some cases, deeply creative.
Summary of Part 8:
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Compromise channels create energetic suppression — they require deep awareness.
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Dominance channels influence the relationship strongly — but can stabilize or destabilize depending on alignment.
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Awareness turns power struggles into points of clarity.
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Strategy and Authority remain the only way to discern if a dynamic is correct.
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Correct relationships are not “balanced” — they are mechanically harmonious.
